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The BULLY World

Bullying is real, it happens in person and online, and it didn't end when grown-ups were your age — they just stopped calling it that. This planet teaches what it is, what to do, and where to call when you need a real human.

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Name What Is Happening

Three different things get called bullying. They are not the same, and they need different answers.

Rude is careless. Mean is on purpose, once. Bullying is on purpose, over and over, when one side holds more power. Ten real situations, three questions to ask about each, and what to actually do. Nothing on this planet asks you to fight back, and nothing on it asks you to handle it alone. Telling a grown-up is on every single page, because it is never the wrong answer.

What this planet is aboutread once

If this is you right now

This is real. You are not making it up. You are not too sensitive.

Whatever is happening — we believe you. It counts as bullying even if other kids tell you it doesn't. It counts as bullying even if no one else has noticed. It counts as bullying even if the kid doing it says they were "just joking." If you didn't think it was a joke, it wasn't one. The rest of this page is the playbook.

Everything else on this planetlater, not now
Most adults who were bullied as kids never told anyone. They thought they had to handle it alone. They were wrong, but nobody told them otherwise. This planet exists so you'll know — in plain words, before it gets worse — that this is real, you are not weak for hurting, and the help is here.
— A foundation rule of this world

01 · What it is

Bullying is not the same as being mean once.

A kid being rude one time is not bullying — that's just being a jerk. Bullying is a pattern, where someone (or a group) keeps targeting one person, and the targeted person can't easily make it stop.

02 · The shape of it

In every bullying situation there are four roles.

You might be in any of them right now. You might have been in different ones at different times. Tap each role to see what it looks like — and what the move is from inside that role.

03 · What to do

The three playbooks.

There's a specific set of moves for each role. The one for you depends on which side of this you're on right now.

04 · The two arenas

In-person and online.

Bullying happens in both places. Some kids face only one; many face both at once. They are not the same problem — here's what's different.

More on this planet

The Bully main page is comprehensive on its own — the four cards below are anchors back to the major sections, so you can find them fast if you came here in a hurry.

Progressive Planet · this planet appears on every CULT platform — Kids, Teens, Adult. Same word, every age. The problem keeps its name.

Planet · Bully

You have a perimeter.

Some kid (or some group of kids, or some adult, or some account online) is treating you in a way that's not okay. This planet is the map for what to do next.

Definition

Three things make it bullying

  • It's repeated — not a one-off bad day. It keeps happening, or you have a feeling it will.
  • It's targeted — they're aiming at you specifically, not just generally being unpleasant.
  • There's a power imbalance — they're bigger, more popular, in a group, online and you can't get away, or somehow you can't easily stop them.

If all three are true, it's bullying. If only one is true, it might just be a hard day — for them, or for you. The pattern is the point.

It still counts when

All of these are bullying

  • Name-calling, even "just joking"
  • Spreading rumors that aren't true
  • Leaving you out on purpose, over and over
  • Pushing, shoving, taking your stuff
  • Group texts where everyone piles on
  • Mean comments on your posts or your friend's posts
  • Screenshots used to embarrass you
  • Anyone telling you to hurt yourself
  • A sibling who won't stop — "just family" doesn't make it okay

If you need a real person right now

All of the hotlines below are free, anonymous, and run by people trained to help kids and teens. They will not laugh at you. They will not be annoyed that you called. They want you to call.

If it's happening to you

The target's playbook

  1. Tell a trusted adult. Not just any adult — one specific person you already know cares. If the first one doesn't help, tell another one. Keep telling until something happens.
  2. Keep proof. Screenshots of mean messages. Names of who was there. Dates. Adults take you more seriously when you have proof.
  3. Stay near other people. Bullies usually go after kids who are alone. Eat with people. Walk with people. Sit with people. Not because it's your fault — because it's a real defense.
  4. Don't fight back the way they want. They want you mad. Mad makes you look like the problem to adults watching. Walking away is harder than punching back. It's also smarter.
  5. Take care of yourself outside of it. Sleep. Eat. Move your body. Spend time with the people who actually love you. Don't let the bully take up all the space in your head.
Script · telling an adult "I need to talk to you about something hard. It's about [name]. They've been [specific thing] to me [how often / where]. I need help figuring out what to do."
If you see it happening

The ally's playbook

Research keeps finding the same thing: bullying mostly ends when bystanders become allies. Not when the target fights harder. Not when adults punish more. When other kids show up.

  1. Don't laugh. Bullies need an audience. If nobody laughs, the joke dies.
  2. Stand next to the target. Literally. Be the second body. You don't have to say anything.
  3. Speak up if you can. "That's not funny." "Leave them alone." Short. Calm. Walk away after.
  4. Check on them later. Privately. "Hey, are you okay?" That ten-second conversation can be the thing they remember about that day.
  5. Tell an adult. If it's bad and the target hasn't told anyone, you tell. You're not snitching. You're protecting someone.
Script · if you can't think of anything "Hey. Not cool." Then walk away. That's enough. You don't have to fight or explain. You just have to break the rhythm.
If you might be the one doing it

The accountability playbook

Most kids who bully don't think of themselves as bullies. They think they're funny, or they think the kid deserves it, or they're going along with friends, or they're hurt themselves and don't know what else to do with it. You're not a bad person for landing here. You're a brave one for looking.

  1. Stop. Right now. Whatever the thing is — the name, the group chat, the picking on this kid — just stop. You don't have to apologize yet. Just stop.
  2. Apologize for real. Not "sorry if you took it the wrong way." Real: "I was [thing]. It was wrong. I'm not doing it anymore." No excuses.
  3. Make it right when you can. Sit with them at lunch. Defend them next time. The opposite of what you were doing.
  4. Talk to someone about why. A parent, a counselor, a coach. There's usually a reason. Figuring it out keeps it from coming back as something else.
  5. Don't go back. The hardest part. Your friends might still be doing it. Your old self might want to. Stay on the new side anyway.
Script · the real apology "I want to say something. I was [specific thing]. It was wrong, and I'm not doing it anymore. You don't have to be okay with me. I just wanted you to know I see it now."
Arena · In-person

When it happens face-to-face

Where it shows up: hallways, the bus, the cafeteria, recess, sports practice, your own house with a sibling.

What's different: there are usually witnesses. There's a place. There's a time. Adults can see it if they're paying attention.

What helps: staying near friends, knowing which adults you can run to, having a "buddy" agreement with another kid that you stick together in the risky places.

What's hard: you can't escape physically. They know where you'll be. The recovery from a bad day is short before the next one starts.

Arena · Online

When it happens on a screen

Where it shows up: group chats, comment sections, in-game chat (Roblox, Minecraft, Fortnite, anything with a chat), DMs, mean memes screenshotted around.

What's different: there's proof — screenshots can be saved. There are usually no witnesses except the people piling on. It can happen 24/7, including in your bedroom.

What helps: block, mute, screenshot, tell a parent. Most apps have a report button — use it. Leaving the group chat is allowed and is often the right move.

What's hard: it follows you home. There's no safe space if your phone is the source. Sometimes the right move is no phone for a few days. That's not punishment — that's peace.

Today's challenge
Pick one kid in your life and sit with them today, on purpose.

A kid who eats alone, plays alone, or seems to always be off to the side. You don't have to become best friends. Just sit. Just play one round. You might be saving someone's whole day without ever knowing it.

The long arc

This planet is one stop on a single curriculum, not a standalone topic. The same subject is taught at every level of C.U.L.T. — a cadet who starts at Sparks never starts over.

  1. Sparks · Chispasages 3–6Safe · safe and unsafe, and telling a grown-up is always allowed.
  2. Kidsages 6/7–12Rude, mean, or bullying — three different things that need three different answers.You are here
  3. Teensages 13–17Power, crowds and the joke that is not one; online harm and what a record is for.
  4. Adult18+Naming harm without becoming it — at work, in a family, and in what you pass on.

Every level is open to everybody. Nobody is asked their age, and nobody is tracked. A grown adult who never got taught this is welcome to start at the bottom rung, and a twelve-year-old who is ready is welcome to climb.